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Mormon Dating Sites

A person should be able to find the right Mormon Dating Sites out there that can help people find the kind of person they want to date. It all can trend back to the kinds of values and the importance that a person puts on family.
Some of the best Mormon dating websites out there are:


1. LDS Mingle-A person who wants to find a younger crowd may be able to find that younger crowd on LDS Mingle. The truth of the matter is that you will also find some higher income dating options with LDS Mingle. Many people may have concerns about the income levels of the person that they are dating; most people do want to date someone who is successful. This is why you should take the time to go to a place like LDS Mingle.

2. LDS Planet-A lot of LDS singles come on this site not only for a date, but also a fair amount of lively discussion. The truth of the matter is though that a lot of the messages that are sent may or may not be very easy to find on the website, the site does need to work on some of the glitches on there. There are a lot of people out there who see a lot of traffic on this site and the site itself cannot seem to handle some of that heavy traffic.

3. LDS Pals-LDS pals is a great Mormon dating website for someone who wants to be able to register things quickly and truly try to get this process done in a timely fashion. A large number of people on this site simply want to take things slow and the profiles on the site may not be quite as detailed for that very reason. This is not a site that asks about what kind of job you have and you certainly don’t have to give out that kind of information if you do not want to. The small amount of members on the site can be a positive because there isn’t as much competition on the site.

Families
People want to be able to express their faith freely and in many cases the best way to do this is to make sure that you are able to keep your views and values in mind. People within the Mormon Church believe in strong families and have a sense of promoting the common good.

Hanging Out vs Dating

(This was sent into us by one of our viewers)Dating vs Hanging Out

Tiffany’s excited but feeling a little anxious, on her first day working her new job at the popular restaurant she has just been hired at. As she spends time cleaning the counters, trying to be as productive as she can, a fellow employee approaches. Joe, is a college student and attends the local university, BYU-Idaho, just like Tiffany. Following a very short and concise hello, Joe blurts out, “Tiffany, I know I don’t know you very well, but do you want to date?!” Tiffany replied with a confused, “What do you mean?” Joe adamantly replies, “date!” “You mean go on a date?” states Tiffany. At this point Joe’s heart is pounding and sweat is beginning to bead on his forehead.  He’s quickly loosing his confidence, as he says, “Yeah that’s what I mean.” “Ok,” comes the reply from Tiffany. With obvious surprise, “really?” comes from Joes’ mouth.  “Yes,” again comes the reply from Tiffany. According to Tiffany, the date did not go any smoother than the awkward ask out went.

This is an all too familiar tale for many BYU-Idaho students in the dating scene, especially with the increased emphasis on dating caused by Elder Oaks’s may 1, 2005 address to the youth of the Latter-day Saint Church calling for the youth to go on dates rather than “hanging out.”  In the address Elder oaks gives a definition for hanging out by stating, “Hanging out consists of numbers of young men and young women joining together in some group activity. It is very different from dating.” Elder Oaks widens the chasm between dating and hanging out even more with his definition of dating, “Unlike hanging out, dating is not a team sport. Dating is pairing off to experience the kind of one-on-one association and temporary commitment that can lead to marriage in some rare and treasured cases.” (Oaks, 1) There is unarguably a very real difference between “hanging out” and dating. Now it’s up to me to decide which one will be most helpful as I meet girls and search for a girl I can connect with.

Warren Buffett, one of America’s riches men, gave this advice, “Rule No.1: Never lose money. Rule No.2: Never forget rule No.1.”(brainyquote.com) As a college student with a very limited income, money is about as rare as days where the high temperature rises above 50 degrees. Between tuition, food, and having a place to live, I’m not left with too much spending money for recreational activities, such as dates, especially when I’m expected to pay for myself and for my girl of choice for the evening. As an alternative I could invite a group of girls to go to a comedy show, or concert, or any fun activity where everyone pays for themselves, while we still have a great time. Hanging out can also save us from uncomfortable situations such, as when the check is brought to the table on a date.  The girl feeling guilty goes for her purse, while the guy has to animatedly affirm that he’s “got this one.” Sometimes a girl without a strong background in formal dating, will not even be sure who is suppose to pay, she’ll ask herself, “is he paying, am I paying, are we going dutch?” situations such as these, over money, can really put a damper in the date, and could be avoided completely by hanging out.

Contrast I have, on more than one occasion I have heard girls at BYU-Idaho mention how they enjoy having a guy pay for them, in many ways it resembles the financial co-operations married couples live by. Girls who are looking for a potential spouse can not help but be impressed by having one man pay for everything the entire night. Us guys don’t need to be Warren Buffet either, to be able to pay for a date. There are many date ideas guys can use which are either free or very inexpensive, such as flying kites in windy Rexburg, or even going sledding on a nearby hill, which are plentiful in Rexburg as well.

Just like Tiffany’s experience being asked out and the actual date, they were made uncomfortable, because she hardly knew Joe. I’m sure Joe would admit as well that asking out Tiffany maybe wouldn’t have been so choppy if he already had a friendship with her. Brittany B. a BYU-Idaho student stated her feelings about not knowing her dates previously, “dating a guy before I get to know him as a friend makes the dating experience awkward,  I’d rather get to know him at least a little as a friend before going on a date with him, it makes the date more comfortable.”(Brassel) What kind of guy or girl would ever want to experience the discomfort of an awkward date? Having been on blind dates where I don’t really know the girl at all, previous to the date, makes things a little gawky for both of us. If Tiffany and Joe’s story could be rewound giving Joe the chance to ask Tiffany to hang out with him and a group of friends rather than going on an official date, Joe probably would not have been so unpolished and Tiffany would have been able to get to know Joe without any pressure.

If you were to ask most guys if they’ve ever been in the “friend zone” before they would probably give you a laugh or chuckle followed by a yeah. The friend zone is where you are interested in a person romantically but they don’t share your feelings, and it’s like swimming against a powerful current, to try and get out of.  Guys are terrified of the friend zone, but one of the easiest ways to get dragged into it is by not letting a girl know clearly that you’re interested. An invitation to go hangout with a group of friends can easily be interpreted by a girl to mean, “Hey I’m looking to make some new friends and nothing more than friends, do you wanna go hangout with me.” To avoid the “friend zone” I have to make my intentions completely clear, and asking a girl on a date will say loud and clear to her that I am interested in her romantically.

One of the most humbling experiences a guy can have during his life at college has to be rejection from the opposite sex. Jessica Gower a BYU-Idaho student and writer for the Scroll student newspaper shared some of these experiences. “Now for the big date. You are watching a movie with a girl of your choice. You wouldn’t mind holding her hand. Rat’s her arms are crossed. Maybe you can slyly… wrong. There’s your first hint. Did you miss it? Rewind. Her arms are crossed. That’s it. Her arms are crossed, that’s a pretty big sign that she’s not that into you.”( Gower, 23) Dates with their rigidness and formality can make me feel like I’m playing a grueling game of chess. The game is between my desire to show my interest versus her lack of ability to decide if she likes me or not. Even something as simple as holding a girl’s hand can be mentally exhausting trying to make happen. If I was able to hang out with this same girl without the title of a “date” and everything that comes with that, and just do something fun in a laid back environment, she will definitely be herself. This would make it easy for me to decide if I really do like her and also to read whether she’s interested in me or not, turning a mentally exhausting  game of chess into an effortless game of tick-tack-toe.

On the flip side, girls are attracted to confidence and assertiveness, and logically if I let fear of rejection keep me from asking a girl out, I may lose my chance completely to pursue a relationship. She may get bored of my lack of courage and give up on me. According to the national census on average age of marriage in 1980, about the time my parents were married, the average age for marriage was 24.7 years for men, and 22 for women. As of 2003 the age has increased to 27.1 for men and 25.3 for women (http://www.census.gov). I’m sure that has increased even more by today. Along with that, birth rates have decreased among Latter Day Saint families. Most of those who are part of the dating scene at BYU-Idaho have marriage and children on or near the top of their list of things to accomplish in life, but according to the census, this isn’t happening until later in life and for some not at all. The culprit for this trend may actually be hanging out. According to Elder Oaks, “Knowledgeable observers report that dating has nearly disappeared from college campuses and among young adults generally. It has been replaced by something called “hanging out”(Oaks). As one of those young adults spoken of by Elder Oaks, I must admit that excessive hanging out, especially when fueled by fear of rejection or commitment, will not help me find Miss Right. At some point I do need to ask girls on dates, but hanging out can be a very feasible way to meet girls and decide if I am interested prior to asking them on a formal date. I guess I’ll really never know for sure though, until I give it a try.

(This was sent in by one of our viewers and does not reflect the opinion of byuidating.com)

Fun Things to do in Rexburg Idaho

 

Fun Things to do in Rexburg Idaho

Fun things to do in Rexburg Idaho

If you are a college student at BYU-Idaho, chances are you came from a town much larger than Rexburg. You might think that there is nothing you can do in this small town of Rexburg. After a while you will see that there are loads of fun things to do in Rexburg Idaho; however, it is not the normal things you would usually do in a big city. For example, you can always go out to the sand dunes and have a bon fire. If you like to do things outdoors there are tons of things to do. Yellowstone National Park is only about 1.5 hours away from here. If you are looking for fun things to do in Rexburg Idaho you are in luck. Here is a list of fun things to do in Rexburg Idaho. This is mostly geared towards college students who are going to school at BYU-Idaho. Not all of the things listed here are things to do just in Rexburg, but surrounding areas as well.

  • Play night games at the sand dune
  • Go feed the ducks at the Nature Park
  • $2 Tuesdays at the Cheap Seats and free popcorn Wednesday
  • Go to the ice caves ( four wheel drive required)
  • Hike “R” Mountain
  • Go Fishing
  • Demolition Derby in nearby cities
  • Rodeo
  • Visit Back Country Secrets to find something fun to do
  • Haunted Houses
  • Go play at the park
  • Have a bonfire with treats and a dance party
  • Go on a bike ride
  • Rent a tandem bike from the ORC
  • Play Bigger or Better (Each couple starts with something small—Then they go door to door in your neighborhood asking people to trade you for something bigger or better than the item you currently have. At the end of a specified amount of time, get back together and vote on the winning couple.)
  • Go have a snowball fight (Oh wait that is illegal, do not do that!)
  • Bowling
  • Here is a link to Rexburg Chamber of Commerce they have some good ideas.
  • Go Clay pigeon shooting
  • Play sports outside or in the gym
  • Look at the BYU-I calendar they have lots of things to do.
  • Visit the Teton Flood Museum
  • Go visit the Old Teton Dam
  • Go on a hike
  • Take a piece of paper and write down the first 20 fun things to do in Rexburg Idaho. You will be surprised with what you come up with.
  • Demolition derby (St. Anthony)
  • Go to the Zoo in Idaho Falls
  • Go to Lava Hot Springs (1.5 hours away)
  • Go to Green Canyon
  • Civil Defense Caves
  • Go window shopping
  • Go on a Date, if you are a guy stop playing video games and ask a girl on a date!!!
  • Go to concerts on campus
  • Go to Plays on campus
  • Have a board game night
  • Snow boarding at Kelly Canyon (Wed and Saturday only $15 for night boarding)
  • Country dancing or Swing dancing Wednesday night on campus only $1
  • Latin dancing Friday nights only $1
  • Ice blocking
  • Go do a service project for someone who needs help
  • Paint balling
  • Indoor Rock climbing
  • Go visit people at the Old Folks Home
  • Float down the river with inner tubes

Please leave a comment of fun things to in Rexburg Idaho. If you do not want to leave a comment about fun things to do in Rexburg Idaho you can e-mail us at info@byuidating.com

How to Have a Healthy Relationship

How to Have a Healthy Relationship

It is up to you to be happy; it is your choice. You cannot expect your boyfriend or girlfriend to be responsible for your happiness. They can addHealthy Relationship to your happiness but you cannot just expect him or her to do everything for you.

You both need to give to the relationship by serving one another. If you are always on the giving end and your partner on the receiving, you are in unhealthy relationship. The more you put into the relationship the more you want it to work and the more your heart is invested. The ideal situation is that both parties are invested. This type of relationship is the best type when you have two givers.

You need to make sure you respect one another. You both will have different opinions; do not expect your partner to agree with you on every issue. If you tell your partner that you are going to do something make sure you do it no matter how big or small. By doing what you say your relationship will grow stronger. If you do not have respect for each other your relationship will be very unhealthy.

Communication is key to any relationship. If you are not able to talk to each other about issues get out of the relationship now. You need to make sure and talk about how your relationship is going and how you can improve it. Talk to each other and make sure that you both have the same understanding. Someone once said, “you can choose to be right or to have a successful relationship, you can’t always have both.”

It is okay to admit that you made a mistake: apologize when you do. After you have a argument or a misunderstand make sure to talk through it.  It's important to take time to cool off before talking.  One thing that has worked for ages is when you have a fight, stop and take it to the bathroom and finish it there. By the time you arrive the argument will seem silly and will quickly resolve itself. This has helped save many marriages.

You will have to be able to forgive one another. This does not mean that you ignore bumps in the relationship, but it does mean you need to try and be understanding of why they did it and resolve it.  Communication and respect come into play here.

Make sure to always tell the truth no matter what. Make sure to be honest to yourself and to your partner: it's a requirement for a healthy relationship. In the world today people think it is okay to lie to protect someone’s feelings. Lies will destroy your relationship. It will create a disconnect between you and your partner. For any relationship to work you must be able to trust each other 100%!

You need to make sure to make time for each other. No matter how busy you are or how long you have been dating or married. You need to make sure that you set time aside just for the two of you.

As well you need to appreciate each other, the more you appreciate each other the more you will love each other.

Keep your thoughts clean; do not think about other people you could pursue. When you start doing this you will start to see what you cannot have and this will destroy your relationship. It is so important to be faithful to who you are dating. Remember if someone will cheat with you, they will also cheat on you.  Do not flirt with other people.

Make sure to have fun with each other. If you are just starting to date and you are not having fun with each other maybe it is not right. Look for the good in the person you are in the relationship with. If you look, there will be many good things you will be able to find.  Anyone can find something negative about someone, so do not do this. If you look for the good you will find it.